The Royal Family: opulence, regality, tradition, land and wealth. The crown jewels, acres of land, breaking news stories. The whisper of scandal, the ink of gossip columns, official press response. The Royal Family are swathed in drama, to a greater degree than any reality show. Yet, they are deemed as uninteresting tourist attractions by many. From the UK, to the USA, even during their greatest dramas, the Royal Family aren’t so often a household name as the Kardashians. So, why are they relevant in self-development, and how can they be used as a monument of emotional intelligence?
A key facet of minimal mindset is the ability to prioritise where we expend our energy. We may choose to spend time with friends, spend time at the bar, read alone in a coffee shop, watch reality TV, go to museums. We are often choosing to spend our time in a certain way, without even realising. When we take the time to engage in online feuds and spend many hours a day checking trending topics, we are choosing to expend our energy in ways which mostly do not serve us.
Being reactionary is a trait which most of us share. It is in our nature to react to things which we find shocking, offensive, personally upsetting. We are all, of course, entitled to our opinions. However, we have each been given a chance to share our most immediate of opinions online, whenever we choose- a factor which has led to our reactionary nature being tested against all odds. In self-development, it is a trait which we must address if we are to move into the future with a greater peace of mind and overall more positive relational approach. When we learn to manage our emotions, and emotive responses, in more useful ways, we can forge better work and social relationships and improve our everyday interactions.
Rooted in tradition, and in the never complain, never explain stoic motto of the Royal Family cements the rejection of this reactionary nature. It’s a trait of many leaders, and ultimately allows for people of any standing to take charge of situations, remain calm under pressure, and to reduce mental stress. This calm composure comes from three key features:
the ability to take a step back from the situation, the capacity to separate the personal from the public, and the choice to lean towards duty over dramatics. In self-development, if we take these three features and apply them to our own impulsivity and tendency to dramatise, we can find greater peace and reclaim our power, even in difficult situations.
Who do you look to for calm composure? Will you utilise the never complain, never explain approach in your life?
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